Life is never a perfectly straight line. There are times when everything runs smoothly and others when you are tired of struggling with everything going on. Even though life’s lows respectfully suck… they are not permanent.
Do not go hard on yourself for being in a rough situation. Everyone has a hard time at some point in life. You are not in this alone. The fact that you are reading this means that you are over with struggling and ready to pursue change actively.
Read on to discover 15 tips for living a better life if you are tired of the struggle.
Tired Of Struggling: 10 Tips On How To Live A Better Life
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
As human beings, we are driven by an innate need to self-evaluate. According to social comparison theory, measuring ourselves up against others comes naturally as a way of self-assessment.
Research has shown that even though social comparison can give motivation for self-improvement, it can also have a catastrophic impact on self-esteem. Comparison can generate emotions of guilt, unworthiness, and jealousy.
Remember that everyone is unique when you are sick of struggling to get out of a self-pity hole. Our value as human beings cannot be determined by external attributes or achievements. Instead of comparing yourself to others, assess your growth by looking at past versions of yourself.
Extra tip: Try to limit or at least filter exposure to social media, where everyone showcases only the good aspects of their lives.
Say “No” More Often
Have you ever said yes to a proposal you were not interested in? Have you avoided disputes or stepped down from claiming what you want? Fear of rejection causes many people to adopt people-pleasing behaviors that leave them unsatisfied and depleted.
Healthy boundaries set the basis for prosperous relationships. Start by saying NO whenever you feel like it. If that is hard for you, behavioral investigator and best-selling author Vanessa Van Edwards can give you a few tips and tricks.
For starters, do not give an immediate response but take time to consider, even if you intend to decline. Then, give your negative response politely but without further explanation. This way, no one will not be able to question your reasons.
“Declutter,” The People In Your Life
My grandma always says, “you may have one friend or no friends at all.” Indeed, it is hard to find people who make good friends.
Out of fear of being alone, we tend to settle with people who do not align with our personality, values, or emotional needs.
Investing in toxic relationships will only thin out your energy. You will be tired of struggling through life to make a dead-end situation work. Know that you are worthy of emotional security, love, and unconditional support.
The fear of loneliness is valid, but remember that sometimes you need to declutter your life to make space for something better to fill the spot.
Are you struggling with endless thoughts and worries? Our minds are like restless monkeys hopping from one place to the other.
We constantly evaluate the past and worry about the future. But these only exist in our minds. The only thing we can control and shape in a way that serves us is the present.
Practice mindfulness every day for as little as a few minutes. You can try meditation or the DBT skills for mindfulness.
Focus on understanding what is happening at the moment to shatter the illusions we craft with our judgments and expectations. Bask into the glory of the present moment, showing up wholly.
You will also begin noticing what is going on inside. The fast way of living has caused us to become strangers to ourselves. Mindfulness will help you reconnect with your emotions, bodily needs, and desires.
We have grown up in the cradle of toxic productivity culture. We subconsciously believe that our worth is determined by our effectiveness and productivity.
We have learned to value quantity over quality. But the beauty of life lies in small things that you can only notice when you slow down.
There are actionable steps you can take to de-escalate your fast-paced life. For starters, stop multitasking.
Instead, set priorities and do one thing at a time. Secondly, set smaller and more achievable goals you will be dedicated to. Instead of aiming to be more productive, try to be more consistent.
Put A Stop At Expectations
We often allow our lives to be led by the expectations of others and our own. Many people feel entitled to project their desires on us, guiding us to live the way they want us to. Distance yourself from these influences and embark on a journey to find what fills your cup.
Also, avoid holding yourself to big expectations. It is great to be ambitious and aim high but never forget to remain flexible. Expectations build us up to great heights, but success is hardly ever an easy hike to the top.
Instead of beating yourself up to be or perform a certain way, show up as you are and always give the best you can.
We often delay taking action toward our goals for fear of failure. You may procrastinate by telling yourself you are not ready enough, good enough, or rich enough.
But the truth is, you will never be a hundred percent set to sail. Remember that taking risks is an integral part of living, as is “failure.” Do not demonize it because our setbacks make us wiser and more resilient, eventually leading us to growth.
Similarly, you may settle for security and drop the pursuit of your dreams for fear of judgment or disappointing the people in your life.
This is your reminder that you are accountable only to yourself. Some of the best advice I have ever heard is to always start before you are ready and live life without regrets.
According to researcher Brené Brown, the people who have described themselves as joyful among all those she has interviewed are the ones who actively practice gratefulness. She says that gratitude actually precedes joy and not the other way around!
You will welcome joy into your life by creating a practice that aligns with your beliefs and sticking to it. You can keep a journal, say a prayer before your meal or share things you are thankful for with a partner.
You may think that you have nothing to be thankful for. But finding things you appreciate is easier than you think.
You can be grateful for something as simple as waking up every morning. You can choose to see the glass as half-full or half-empty. Being grateful for whatever you have is a conscious choice you can make daily.
Take Care Of Your Mental Health
If you can contact a mental health care professional, do not hesitate to do so! You do not need a mental health problem to benefit from therapy.
However, if it is not within your reach, you can start with smaller steps like journaling. Journaling is a great way of keeping account of your emotions and thoughts. Do not attempt to filter or censor the words that pour out of your heart.
Whatever comes out, do not judge it. Practice self-acceptance instead. Try to be gentler and more compassionate with yourself.
Be aware of your inner dialogue and the subconscious words of judgments we intertwine in your self-talk. Cut yourself some slack and practice adorning yourself with affirmations.
Take Care Of Your Physical Health
These tips will be good for nothing if you don’t care for your health. Fuel your body with plentiful and nutritious food. Be aware of your hunger cues and do not disregard food’s satisfaction factor.
Engage in whatever exercise feels suitable for your body. Physical activity will improve your health and boost your mood and energy levels.
Finally, do not forget to prioritize sleep. We tend to consider rest as a waste of time. But you cannot expect an organism to run on “low-battery” for too long.
Understandably, you are tired of struggling through life, but remember that there can be good coming out of hard times.
The assets we obtain while learning to surpass our struggles make us more resilient in the long run. Challenges come in our path to help us evolve into better versions of ourselves.